One of the interesting insights coming out of the 12-step literature is that it is counter productive to try to fix each other. We can only fix ourselves. An atmosphere where we are constantly trying to fix each other will quickly squelch honesty. I do not want a group that is constantly trying to fix me. If the group tries to fix, no one will be honest. It does not matter how well-meaning the group is in this, fixing kills honesty.

I have seen this happen in groups many times. One person will bravely risk sharing something that is not working. Someone will tell them, “You just need to pray.” Another will tell them to, “Just forgive and forget. Another will tell them to, “Have more faith.” Another will tell them that if they just had more discipline all would be well. Everyone has simple answers to enormous problems. And no one puts a bandage on the wound. This is where Sunday school gets a bad name. To give a “Sunday school answer” is synonymous with a simplistic, unrealistic, or poorly thought through answers.

People do this fixing in a well-meaning way. They are honestly trying to help. . . but it does not help. What does help? Click here to find out: https://smallgroupnetwork.com/articles/dont-try-to-fix-your-group/